There are several reasons why people give up on their day to day challenges. Now-a-days the world runs in a fast pace, and not everyone has the tool set to succesfully face these challenges. Believe it or not, our digital life is demanding more and more of our time and energy, and for some people this is just unaffordable. Have a guidance to “Keep Calm and Carry On” is important to achieve your happiness, whatever this means for you. During a conversation with one of the MBA professors, he asked me to write my top ten advices to someone who is not resilient or has not developed the resiliency as a method of reduce the stress in our Digital Era. I thought it was a good idea to make this list, so I created these bits of advice, and hopefully, you can use it to improve your resilience.
Disclaimer: The following advices have not been proven by any scientist, those are just based in my own and meandering experience.
I will spend these advices:
1.- Embrace challenges.
Challenges will be there even if you ignore them, in fact, if they are ignored, they will be bigger every time. As Eckhart Tolle said: ” Accept the place your are, the situation you are and embrace it”. Embrace your situation, accept it and resolve it. One by One, from the easiest to the hardest.
2.- Laissez-Faire.
There will be events in your life where you can’t do anything about it, just “let it go”, and carry on.
3.- Don’t take too much responsibility.
You can try to fix the world, the country, the state, the county, the city, the neighbourhood or your entire family, however, in the end, the only person you are responsible to fix is you. You are not supposed to fix the world, fix yourself and select your battles.
4.- Be assertive.
Say the correct things to the right person, right in the moment it is happening.
5.-Accept your failures.
Accepting your failures will provide you the opportunity to make a better approach to the problems you need to resolve.
6.- Fix disagreements asap.
I have had experiences where people had some misconception of myself, usually, due to 3rd party comments. The times I didn’t clarify these misconceptions the relationships were broken and unable to fix them. On the other hand, those where I spoke and clarified disagreements, ended up as a very good friendship.
7.- Listen music,
Listen relaxed music, or high energy music, that makes you feel better, happier and relaxed.
8.- Achieve small goals every day.
From making your bed to complete your project milestones, complete small achievements every day will provide you self-confidence and it will give you more resilience to the difficult moments. Set a goal, work in steps to achieve the goal, as I was told once:” How an ant eats and elephant?, bite by bite!”
9.- Make exercise.
Exercise your body will allow you to “think in nothing”, this will be a time to rest your mind and clarify it, then you will get the ability to find the best solutions to your concerns. If possible, go to parks, run along the river banks, or in a forrest, any place where you can breath fresh air and see the green trees, chipmunks, squirrels or birds chirping.
10.- Get away:
from people, places, things that over-stress you. Pace of mind is a key to be resilient.
Bonus Track:
Uninstall your social networks apps, these are stealing your precious time, which is unrecoverable. Most of the time, these do not provide you with the full reality of the world, they are just a portion of what others want you to see, and that creates a distorted vision of your reality since you tend to compare yourself with these buddies, who, usually are not living the life they show in their social networks.
Thank You.!
~ Bitvorous
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